I recently started
dating somebody. One of the first statements I made to him was, ‘I am a strong independent
woman’. Quite proudly. Quite amazed that I found myself infatuated with this
boy because I don’t allow myself to get close. So the best buffer I could was
to flaunt my strength and my independence.
Why was it necessary? Why
was this one of the first statements I uttered to him?
Because I was scared. Still
am. I have had my heart broken. So have we all, right? My husband left me for
another woman when I was seven months pregnant with his son. And I think for me
that broke any bit of fundamental hope I had in ever meeting a nice boy. Or being
loved. Or being nurtured.
I tried dating after
that. Really hard. I attempted putting myself out there. I didn’t want to get
bitter. I didn’t want to feel like my love life was over before I even turned
30.
But try as I might, I did
not meet anybody for me. I met people, but my soul knew, they were somebody
else’s happily ever afters. So I threw them back into the ocean.
Closed my heart off,
erected a wall, threw some barbed wire on top for good measure, and called it a
day. Had a wonderful life. Met people. Raised my kids. Travelled. Studied. Ran my
business. Grew it. Learned about myself. Discovered so much about people and
about life.
Contented. Complete. Fulfilled.
But TOTALLY love averse. After all, if your family lets you down, your husband
lets you down, your friends let you down, lets be honest. The safest bet is the
convent.
And then I met the boy
I was meant to be with all along. Just one random day. And I realized. I was
NOT strong and independent. I was scared. Fear had been holding me back all
along. But I am so glad it did, because it let go at just the right time, and
propelled me straight into his arms. I didn’t have a chance to think, I just
did.
Fear held me back –
what holds you back? What would you do tomorrow if there was no more barriers?
Be kind to one another.
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